Most Americans under 18 have put on new clothes, filled backpacks high of supplies, awaited the bus on the corner, and entered the hallways of school over the last few weeks. That's right, it's Back to School time.
Reflecting on this time of year, it is easy to put yourself back in these shoes- the changes, the nerves, the challenges. The most difficult pieces to navigate by far are the social pressures and networking that happen in groups of same-aged peers.
But let's be honest, social ability and human interaction don't stop at high school graduation. As adults, we continue network navigation. Being liked is a desire that is innately born within due to our need for attachment with others.
So, let's talk popularity. How can you be popular?
1. Be Genuine
There is nothing more enticing in a person than someone who is confident, secure in their own self-worth, and stable. If you are genuine in who you are, people will see something within and gravitate towards the comfort that you provide.
2. Be Kind
The definition of Kind includes a group of people who have a shared quality with one another. Being Kind allows people to connect. Being Kind provides the opportunity to share. Being Kind gives opportunity for network. So be Kind.
3. Be Honest
Just do it. Be honest. There are an estimated 7 billion people on this planet. If you are honest with yourself, and enjoy spending time with someone, invest your energy. If you find yourself hiding the truth, figure out the reasons for this, and change your behavior. No one enjoys false information.
4. Be Loving
People will never, ever, ever forget how you make them feel. Fill them with respect, affection, tenderness, and love. You both win.
5. Be YOU
You are amazing. You are awesome. You are unique. And you are the only one that is you. You are enough. Just as you are. So just be you.
Being popular is a desired trait. And it's not rocket science. Go be these things, you already are. If you find that some people don't receive you well, remember, there are 7 billion others that are waiting to make you popular in their eyes.
Dr. Kate Cummins is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist based out of Los Angeles, California. I am now accepting new patients in my private practice and through Skype (telehealth). Please look at my website, www.drkatecummins.com and contact me with any questions you may have (424)488-9973 or firstname.lastname@example.org. This information is meant for education and knowledge expansion. This blog post is not a form of mental health treatment or individual clinical work.